Are you afraid of getting older? Have you received pressure from society because of marital expectations? Check out the infographic below from SK-II which is something I can relate to, and perhaps you too. Everyone’s afraid of hitting 30. I hit 30 last year and it can be a daunting milestone for us all, but women do live with a different age related pressures compared to men and I think this survey highlights the issues pretty well.
This survey was conducted online by Procter & Gamble in May 2017 among 4280 women and 3261 men ages 18 years of age and older in the following countries: Japan (1006), Korea (1010), China (1006), Hong Kong (301), Taiwan (303), Thailand (302), Malaysia (309), Indonesia (304), United States (1000) , United Kingdom (1000) and Australia (1000).
I used to be extremely terrified of the fact that I was approaching 25 and 30. Those two ages were the point in my life that I felt like I was going to have a little crisis. Always evaluating how much I’ve done in my life and feeling like it was never enough. I had the impression that I ‘m going to be unattractive as I age. Of course I now have a few fine lines now, but in hindsight, I feel the most physically confident I have ever been in my life at the moment!
I think too many people, when younger, feel pressured and influenced by the people around us to do things like get a degree that presumably will earn you lots of money and be rich and successful by 30. We get into that habit of succumbing to pressure and it lives with us. I had always done well in school and Uni, and still remember the stressful exam days where I’d want to ace everything. After I started working in a stable corporate job, I realise I wasn’t actually happy with my work. How am I changing the world? Have I done anything to positively influence someone today? Am I enjoying what I’m doing? When do I get promoted? Eventually, I decided I needed to quit and wanted to work for myself, but then again there was the pressure of financial dependency and throwing away all my qualifications I worked so hard for, and even letting my parents down. Am I going to end up being a homeless middle age woman, depending on others?
Eventually, I still went ahead and left my job, and it was one of the biggest decisions I had to make, going from a stable job to unstable income from my blog. Fast forward to today, I’m so glad I didn’t let society or the perceived norms define my life or career decisions. I now get to work for myself, learn a lot more about the creative industry, and earn a living from creating content that I enjoy, and helping and inspiring others in the process. I definitely feel a sense of fulfillment with my work but I do wonder what my life would be like if I had succumb to social pressures and not step out of my comfort zone. But even with these life experiences, I’m not in the clear yet, every time I meet a relative I get asked why I’m not married yet. Must there really be an age that we have to achieve certain things?
I hope this blog post raises some thoughts. I’m really interested if anyone has felt similar age related pressures? Do know that your not alone and I hope to hear from some of you!
This is a sponsored collaboration with SK-II.